18/10/2017 07:48:25

Ladies Corner


Body language

Do you know the tricks

Gloria Agbambu

LONG before languages and the alphabet evolved, humans relied on body signals to work out whether someone was a friend, a foe or a potential lover. And very little has changed: a mere 7 per cent of the impression people make on us comes from the words they use; 38 per cent stems from their tone, speed and inflections; and a hefty 55 per cent depends on their body language.

Body language is critical in all inter-relations. It shows exactly what you are thinking when you are thinking it. Many gestures may look similar, but have distinctly different meaning: rubbing a nose could just be an itch, but rubbing a nose while avoiding eye contact could be a signal that someone is telling a lie.

Romantic gazes are longer, more meaningful and sometimes roam lower than any other gaze. A man who has set his eyes on you is also likely to preen. He may straighten his tie or sweep his hands back over his hair, and he is sure to stand tall to show off his masculinity.

Take a look at his feet if they are pointing in your direction, he is yours. We tend to subconsciously direct our hands and feet at those we are interested in. The final stage is touch. He may brush your arm to make a point, or cross his legs and fleetingly touch your knees; now his signals should be pretty clear.

Have you seen duds lie? Less crafty than us adult, they will often cover their mouths with their hands as if to push the lie back. When we are older, that single gesture evolves into rubbing our nose or brushing our hair back with our hands.

Liars will also avoid looking at you directly or rub their eyes. If someone is leaning towards you, it is a good sign that they are interested in what you have to say. If they lean back, it is time to lift your game. But watch out for the person who leans back in his chair with his hands behind his head: he is telling you that he is the most important person in the room, and he is not even taking you very seriously.

When someone has had enough of listening to you, they often rub their earlobes. They really want to cover their ears, but cannot. When they think you are lying, they may want to rub their own mouth; they really want to cover yours but cannot do so. When they no longer want to see you, they may rub their eyes.

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